I hope everyone back in the States has a great Christmas! I spent Christmas today: Korean Style. Like us back in the States some people work on Christmas day. But most families here don’t spend the day together but with their friends. My cousin went to a full days worth of work and my older cousin spent the day chasing after a suspected rapist who escaped police custody. Don’t worry he doesn’t have some weird Batman complex. He’s a cop.
Nothing special. No huge fancy turkey, no one dressed up in one of those goofy Christmas sweaters and no tree. Just good company, food and conversation. The past few days out here in has been tough. Homesick and the Korean class I’m taking is starting to feel like a mistake. Homework is a killer. I originally came to Korea to take care of a few things and to meet my dad’s side of the family for the first time. Meeting them when I was five doesn’t count. But it all had me thinking about my plans for the future and the meaning of family.
I grew up with an older sister and mother. I never had the chance to get to know my cousins, aunts and uncle. Just the immediate family. Coming out to Korea I was a bit nervous about meeting the extended family. How will I interact with my cousins? I can barley speak the language. I’m more of a workaholic rather than a party animal. Will they think I’m fun or just lame?
The two months I’ve been here I’ve finally understand the meaning of family. It’s the relationship you build, not the blood line we share. Obviously, right? Well this is my first time doing anything with ‘family members’ so cut me some slack. My Aunts and their husbands are amazing! They’re welcoming, caring and like family: very critical. You need that person in you life to tell you “hey, stop messing around and start working out. Here, eat more!” Very confusing time in my life. My cousins are great. They’re smart, they like to have fun and they’re very friendly. I’m glad to have them in my life and can’t wait until they come to the States!
Overall, they took the time to know me and I had the opportunity to know them. No one’s perfect but when you welcome someone into the family and spend the time, what more can you ask for?
As long as you try. Some won’t welcome you. Some won’t want to get to know you and some will just do it for the wrong reasons. But family will always stick up for you even though you’ve known each other for the shortest time. I know who I can trust here in Korea. There’s one person I wanted to get to know and I didn’t get a chance to. It’s a shame that I couldn’t get to know him better but at the end of the day we all have choices and he picked. I came here to Korea neutral. But I can see why I’m leaning to the right. You’re missing a back bone. And you’re over 40. It’s kind of sad and I can imagine your future. It’s not too late to make things right with people.
Karma’s a bitch by the way.